Student/staff Driven Solutions (SDS)
“People with the courage to stand up are never victims.
They are heroes, not just in their own lives,
but in the lives of all who face bullying.”
George Lakoff, 2011
The Student/Staff Driven Solutions (SDS) process teaches how to guide students and adults who are targeted in a bullying situation towards finding their own solutions to their bullying problem.
The solutions clients choose are typically gentle, kind, and educational. This allows for the person targeted and the person choosing aggression to come to an understanding that the bullying needs to end. Some examples of solutions are: writing a letter, mediating a discussion, speaking publicly, or a referral to a Sensitivity Training program.
Students and adults who successfully make it through the SDS process acquire the skills needed to stand up for themselves in whatever way makes best sense for their personality, strengths, and challenges. Through resolving their bullying issues, the person who is targeted also learns that they have agency to stand up for themselves in other areas of their lives, and, often start to do so.
8 Steps to the SDS Process:
1) Ask “what’s happened?”
2) Actively listen to the response.
3) Ask: What would you like me to do?
a) Just listen?
b) Give suggestions?
c) Take action with you to solve the
4) Debunk the Myth of Bullying/Assault. Ask: "Why do you think you have been chosen to be bullied/assaulted?"
5) Ask: "What are some possible actions to solve the problem?"
6) Let the person targeted to pick the best solution.
7) Refer the incident OR take steps to solve the incident.
8) Fill out the Safety Plan.
(Wright © 2011)
A 1.5 day training and one-on-one coaching calls will fully prepare teachers, counsellors, managers, and HR professionals to become a SDS Facilitator.
Sensitivity Training is a restorative program for students and adults who are choosing aggression to resolve their problems. During the 1.5 hour long session participants learn new problem solving skills through reflective activities, discussions, empathy building exercises, and case studies. In essence, they are learning to find ways to speak up when things are going wrong, but, to choose a respectful and kind voice to solve problems in the future.
The program is restorative by nature, and as a result it is educational and not punitive. Participants feel heard, and, because of this are open to learning new ways of acting and reacting. Gaining new tools and insights into new conflict management techniques allows participants to solve problems in a calmer manner in the future. This positive learning environment allows participants to take responsibility for their actions and brainstorm ways to repair the damage.
For schools, this restorative justice program fits easily into the current Progressive Discipline model. Administrators and Guidance Counsellors can recommend that students take Sensitivity Training as a supplementary addition to a suspension.
In the workplace, this program fits either in conjunction with, or as an alternative method of discipline for harassing and/or bullying behaviour.
(Wright © 2011)
2.5 days of training and 1-on-1 coaching calls will fully prepare teachers, counsellors, managers, or HR professionals to become a Sensitivity Training Facilitator. Included is the program manual, PowerPoint and handouts.
"It is impossible to change who we are.
It is possible to change our reactions.
Acting and thinking differently can end a cycle of bullying and victimization."
Kathleen Wright, 2016
Assertiveness Training is a group-based program for students and adults who are often targeted in bullying and assaultive cycles. The program can take two or three 75-minute blocks to complete.
In an open, honest, and safe environment, participants have a chance to hear from others' experiences of stepping out of a cycle of victimization, and, to share their own experiences and feelings.
This program helps participants to understand:
• the power dynamics that lead to bullying and assaults.
• the actions and reactions that stop bullying and assaultive behaviours from continuing.
• steps they can take to help face the trauma that they have experienced.
• that these cycles of negative experiences can end through facing their pain and learning different conflict management skills.
Participants will get a chance to:
• practice new ways of acting and reacting to aggression in a safe and secure environment.
• choose language or reactions that feel right to them.
• find ways to think differently about themselves.
• create an action plan that will help them face their challenges.
The group environment helps participants to understand that they are not alone in their trauma. Feeling understood by others can help them to see their experiences differently, and, to take action to resolve problems.
(Wright © 2017)
A 1 day program is all that is needed to fully prepare teachers and counsellors to become an Assertiveness Training Facilitator and to learn how to set up their own program.